Nothing much of importance

It is always interesting to see people who where a part of your life before and who, for whatever reason, are no longer a part of it. There tends to be an awkwardness, I think, because you once knew each other well, and don't anymore, and there is that gap there of time that you missed. I know that I am a much different person now then I was before, even so recent as 3 years ago. So it makes for a strange situation when you run into someone that remembers how you used to be, and treats you accordingly.

I don't know if you have ever experienced this. It seems to happen to me fairly often. I seem to be a much softer, graceful person than I was in my past, and even now I am not the most gracious person I know. And for anyone who knows me well, it might be hard to imagine, as I continue to be fairly cynical. It just comes out differently now than in the past. I imagine that being married and 'settled' whatever that means, has influenced the change to a part. I know my husband himself has influenced who I am. Makes you want to tell people to be careful who they marry, as they end up being a lot like that person. In my case, that is (in my own opinion) for the better. My husband is a man full of integrity, honesty, and a love for God that is inspiring, even after all the years of our marriage. We got a magnet from someone once that says "Love is seeing through someone and still enjoying the view"

And it's SO true. You learn things daily about each other. I know that I still enjoy the view through my husband, and am still inspired to be a better person because of him. I think there is a difference between inspiration and being forced into things. We went to a couple's breakfast recently where the speaker talked about how we need to be willing to change for our spouses. And I thought that was so powerful because I often hear of people leaving each other or divorcing for reasons that to me, seem pretty lame. The speaker said that everyone has 'irreconcilable differences' which is a reason often stated in divorce papers for the divorce. And it's true! We all have them in our relationships with others. It's what we do with them that changes how it effects our relationship.

Not that I believe that my marriage gives me a leg to stand on when it comes to judging good relationships. I am happy and content in mine with my husband. That is the only thing that I can judge, since I am not in the relationship with others. I think it's sad when we look at things from the outside and make a snap judgement like we might know better why the couple or who ever it is might be having problems.

And I am an expert at snap judgement. Believe me. It's something I know about myself and something that I have learned to stifle, in as much as not voicing what I think like I once would have. Like wine, we get better with age. Or maybe not even that so much as we learn to deal with people better as we get older and have more experience in life.

I have nothing sarcastic or pithy to say at this point so I am going to go out with the point that it is sunny, I am excited for spring and things to come. The end.